Saving Your Self

We ask why so many of us crave rescue, then break down what “saving” can mean in danger, in emotional pain, and in the slow drain of wasted time. We connect that need to lyrics that hit hard, personal survival, and the truth that support helps but the decision to change has to come from within.
• defining “save” as rescue, preservation, and preventing waste 
• recognizing when you want protection from emotional harm 
• noticing time drains that make you feel trapped 
• reflecting on “Somebody Save Me” and feeling unsavable 
• leaning on faith and inner tools when help is not available 
• accepting support while taking responsibility for your own healing 
• showing unconditional love with better tactics, not repeated patterns 
• loving from afar when closeness becomes harmful 

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Transcript

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Welcome to a Queen's Opinion. My opinion and your listening ears.

What “Save” Really Means

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Why do we feel we need somebody to save us? The word save is a versatile verb meaning to rescue from danger, preserve from loss, accumulate for future use like money, or prevent waste like time in the dictionary. When I think about the verb meaning to rescue from danger, I want someone to come and save a sister. You know what I'm saying? We find ourselves in situations we need to be rescued from. For example, if I am walking down the street and I see a big dog, I want someone to come rescue a sister. Grab the dog, jump between me and the dog and rescue me. If you see a child running as fast as they can down the street, they want somebody to save them from the danger. We can find ourselves in dangerous situations, like being inside the gas station trying to pay for the gas we just pumped, and here comes

Emotional Safety And Time Wasters

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some thief committing robbery. I am in danger. I want someone to come and save me, rescue me by any means necessary. When I think about the verb meaning preserve from loss, that's what I want somebody to do to keep me safe by protecting me from experiencing hurt of the heart or sustaining any damage emotionally. I want you to keep me safe and my body stays intact. Treat me like grandma's preserved apple, locked tight in the glass jar. My top is screwed on tight, keeping me sweet and juicy with no preservatives. I am sealed tight and ready for future use. By the same token, saving can mean preventing waste. Have you ever experienced someone wasting your time with trivial questions? Or maybe you have been in a meeting and you felt the meeting was a big waste of time. I have. And I wanted to be rescued, saved, to prevent me from losing more time on the situation. Why do we feel we need somebody to save us? Well, maybe because we can't do it by ourselves. It's okay to need help. If you think about it, helping each other is a good thing to do. Sometimes we need mental support. We need encouragement to continue our life journey or to stop hurting ourselves.

Eminem Lyrics And A Mirror Moment

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When I think about needing to be saved, the song that comes to my mind is the song written by Eminem called Somebody, Save Me. In the song, he says, Somebody, save me, me from myself. I've spent so long living in hell. His lyrics made me see what I have been carrying around. No, I don't have a drug problem nor a mental problem, but I have been in a depressed state that I felt like I was living in hell. When I listen to the songs, I truly listen to the lyrics because I want to make a connection on some level with the artist. In this song, his words moved me and made me reflect on my time when I needed help. Help that I didn't get from anybody for years until I met my husband. He is the angel God sent to help save me. Eminem goes on to say, they say my lifestyle is bad for my health. It's the only thing that seems to help. Again, I connect with this lyric as I reflect on my situation.

Surviving Hardship With Faith

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Because I was in a situation where I was homeless in a house with no lights, no water, no heat. And the only thing that seemed to help me was my connection to God. Living in a house alone as a very young child was unhealthy. It was unsafe. And the only thing that seemed to help me was my prayers, my songs, and my stories that I would do to mentally take me from the situation. Eminem gets to a part in the song where he says, I'm a lost call, baby. Don't waste your time on me. I'm so damaged beyond repair. Life has shattered my hopes and my dreams. He doesn't want anyone wasting their time on him because he feels unsavable, unworthy, and beyond repair. If I ever had the chance to meet with Eminem, I would tell him that I am so proud of him that he found a way out of his dark place. I am so happy that he realized that he must decide in his life to save himself. We cry out for help from other people, and yes, other people can help us. We need the help, but ultimately we have to decide for ourselves that we are ready to put the work in to fix our own lives.

Support Helps But You Choose Change

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The people who are there to help us, they can't do it, but they can support us. Why do we feel we need somebody to save us? Because we need encouragement to move forward. We need support. Yes, we need family and friends to show us love that they care for us. I believe love is so powerful that it can move mountains, it can change hearts and minds. I believe if a person receives support, it encourages them to fight for themselves. We need somebody to help us save ourselves. Do you love the person in your life that may need help from you, whether they are your friend or a family member? If you say yes, then show them unconditional love, which will help them save themselves. Trust me, I know it's hard. And some of us have been down the road to help somebody save themselves, and they just keep doing the same thing over and over again. Don't give up on them. Change your tactics or support. Don't do the same things over and over in your support to help them, and don't give up on them no matter what. Sometimes we do have to love from afar. And loving someone from afar doesn't mean out of your mind or out of your life. We are just separated. So you

Unconditional Love And Loving From Afar

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can save yourself to become a better you, a stronger you, a transformed you. Why do we feel we need somebody to save us? Maybe, just maybe. It's because we don't feel unconditional love, trust, hope, care, or forgiveness in our lives. So we hope that someone else can provide that for us. Is that you?

Queen’s Opinion Mission And How To Reach Us

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At Queen's Opinion is a podcast that allows people, especially women, to think out loud about life situations and seek an opinion without being judged. This podcast is supposed to lift you up, encourage you to be the best person you can be, to inspire you to step out of your comfort zone and into your queen zone. I didn't say my opinion will solve your problems. I am not saying that I am right. But what I am saying is I'm going to give you another view of the situation from a distance. No more thinking or questioning a situation by yourself. Ask the queen. Go to our website www.aqueensopinion.com. And click on get in touch to leave your feedback or leave a question for the queen. Don't forget to like us wherever you get your podcast. Thank you for taking time out of your day. I hope you join me for my next episode. Until then, goodbye.