
A Queen's Opinion Podcast
A Queen’s Opinion is a podcast that allows people, especially women, to think aloud about life situations and seek an opinion without being judged. No more thinking about or questioning a situation by yourself. Ask the Queen.
A Queen's Opinion Podcast
Enough Is Enough
Ever feel like your story gets hijacked the moment you start talking? We’ve been there, and we’re calling it out with love and clarity. This conversation is a boundary-reset for anyone tired of being told how to feel, where to go, what to buy, or how to “fix” their life. We unpack why unsolicited advice often smothers trust, how emotional projection turns your experience into someone else’s drama, and what genuine support sounds like when you’re the one venting and just need space to breathe.
We walk through real-world scenarios—friends dictating your feelings, people policing your movements, and loved ones counting your money—and examine the subtle power dynamics behind each. The throughline is agency. When we practice active listening, we stop playing manager and start being a witness: reading tone and body language, reflecting back what we hear, and waiting to be invited before offering opinions. It’s not about silence forever; it’s about consent and timing. Respect shows up as patience, and patience earns trust.
We also talk about the social cost of overstepping. When calls stop, texts slow, and invites fade, that distance may be feedback. The fix isn’t more advice—it’s accountability and a new approach. Our aim is to lift you up, especially if you’re a woman navigating noisy opinions, and give you a practical, judgment-free framework to find your voice and protect your peace. If you’re ready to trade control for connection and advice for attentive presence, you’ll feel seen here.
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SPEAKER_01:Welcome to a Queen's opinion. When is enough enough? There are times when people push your damn buttons and you just grin, smile, laugh it off and say to yourself, I'll be tired of this shit one of these days. Well, this episode is about when enough is enough. Stop telling people what to do, what to feel, where to go or not go, how to spend their money, how to do anything. People in general want to give unsolicited advice regarding others' situation or business. When is enough enough? We appreciate friends, family, co-workers, and even our neighbors. But sometimes we don't need their advice. All we need is a listening ear. Do you know listening to another person as they are sharing their situation could be a form of them working through that difficult moment of their life? They need to express themselves out loud and feel like someone is listening to them. I emphasize the listening to them because many times we hear what people are saying to us, but we are not listening to them. Stop telling others what to do. People will say, I am here for you. Then the next thing you know, those people are telling you how to solve the situation. We hear the situation, and the next thing we do is start trying to solve the problem for them in our heads. We cut the person off and start pouring out our thoughts on resolving the situation, not keeping in mind the details of who, what, when, and why the situation is a problem for them. We don't give them the opportunity to ask for our opinion. We just start telling them what we would do in the situation. The person is sharing the concern or situation with you because they want to blow off some steam or they value your opinion or they want a listening ear. When a person comes to you with an upsetting situation, we need to practice being an active listener and wait to be invited to give a reply or advice. Allow the person to breathe and think through the situation. If they need advice or guidance, they will let you know this is not your life. They don't need you to tell them what to do. Just listen. Stop telling others what to feel. Have you ever had an experience where someone really upset you and you just walked away from the situation? You walked away because you were so frustrated, angry, mad, and upset about what was happening to you. You wanted to take a moment to respond. You start sharing details of what happened with a couple of girlfriends, and suddenly one says, you should feel mad as hell. Now, they are telling you how to feel about the situation and what you should do about the situation. If that happened to me, I would have kicked somebody's ass. They go on and on. The girlfriend is so invested in the situation, it is no longer about your experience, but it is about her feelings, which has not been experienced. Friend, just listen to me. Let me blow off some steam and absorb my feelings regarding the interaction. I need time to respond. Stop telling me how to feel and how I should react. Stop telling me where to go or not go. I am a grown-ass woman, an adult. I choose to go wherever I want to at any time I choose to go. Your friend tells you, girl, I wouldn't go to that neighborhood or city. It might be dangerous. Yes, that may be true, but it's up to me to decide where I am going and with whom I want to go with or to go see in that neighborhood. Now, the girlfriend has pissed you off. Stop telling me where to go or not to go. Maybe I'm trying to get away from you. Now take that and think about it. Stop telling me how to spend my money. I work hard for my money. I did the work to earn this money. I have the right to spend it how I choose. I can purchase anything I want for whom I want to give. I am told that I spend too much money on this and that. So what? It is my money. Maybe I should tell you to stop counting my damn money. It's mine. If I choose to spend my money buying shoes, clothes, handbags, things for my home, things for my children, things for my grandchildren, things for my man, it's not your business or your money. Maybe you are jealous because I didn't spend money on you. Well, if you stop telling me how to spend my money, maybe you will receive a gift or two. Hell, I might even take you on a trip if you get out of my financial business. Stop telling me how to do anything. I have my own mind, my own feelings, my own money. And I am at an age now that I can say and do what the hell I want to. No permission required or needed by any damn body. People want an active listener when they are sharing life situations. If you are still not sure what an active listener is, well, according to the Oxford Dictionary, active listening involves listening to the whole person and absorbing both verbal and nonverbal cues. For example, I say read the room if you are an active listener. You would have read the room to see all the cues. Read the speaker's face for those nonverbal cues. Are they smiling, crying, looking sad or confused? Listen to their voice tone and the words coming out of their mouth. Check out their body language. Are they pacing the room looking anxious or upset? Are they sweating? They're looking for an active listener. So next time someone wants to share some information with you, practice being an active listener and wait for your cue to give advice or an opinion. When is enough enough? When family and friends stop sharing details of their life with you. When friends stop calling and texting, when you are not invited to the party anymore, when you lose family and friend relationships, this may be a sign they have had enough. A Queen's Opinion is a podcast that allows people, especially women, to think out loud about life situations and seek an opinion without being judged. This podcast is supposed to lift you up, encourage you to be the best person you can be, to inspire you to step out of your comfort zone and into your queen zone. I didn't say my opinion will solve your problems. I am not saying that I am right. But what I am saying is I'm going to give you another view of the situation from a distance. No more thinking or questioning a situation by yourself. Ask the queen. Go to our website, www.aqueensopinion.com, and click on get in touch to leave your feedback. Leave a question for the queen. Don't forget to like us wherever you get your podcast. Thank you for taking time out of your day. I hope you join me for my next episode. Until then.