Depression vs. Disappointment

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Podcast Introduction & Disclaimer

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Speaker 2 0:32

Welcome to A Queen's Opinion . My name is Queen . This episode we are talking about disappointment or depression . What is the difference between disappointment and depression ? I'm not a doctor . That's the first thing I want to say in this episode . I have no medical degree and no medical education . The only medical knowledge I know about is my life and my body . So let's get that straight right up front .

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I'm always hearing people saying he or she is so depressed . I think the term is misused and overused . At the same time as I talk to people throughout everyday conversations , somewhere during the day , a person is going to tell me they know someone who is depressed , and when they go on to tell me about what they're so depressed about , I think to myself is that really depression ? Are many people living life as depressed people ? I wanted to take this opportunity to try to shed a little light on the difference

Defining Disappointment vs Depression

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between the two words . I think most of the time , people have disappointing and not depressing experiences . They are feeling disappointed and not depressed . They are experiencing disappointment and not depression . So let's jump right into the differences .

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I think you must define each word as it is in the dictionary so that you can have a full understanding and hopefully at the end , use the right word when describing a situation or a person . I want to start with the word disappointment . Disappointment is defined as sadness or displeasure caused by non-fulfillment of one's hopes and expectations . The dictionary also lists similar words for the term disappointment . Those similar words include sadness , regret , dismay and sorrow , just to name a few .

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For example , your girlfriend gives you a call . She is crying and very upset and she says I don't know if I can take it anymore . She begins to tell you that her new boyfriend of six months just broke up with her and left her in a bad situation . He left her with bills and now she is struggling to get the money to pay all those extra bills he put on her and her household before walking out . Now this sounds like a situation that may be depressing , but I see it differently . What I heard is that your girlfriend is very upset , pissed off , mad and feeling a little regret for even allowing this man to move into her household and not carry his weight . This situation is disappointing from my perspective . She is feeling disappointment in herself for allowing this to happen . She is feeling regret that she let herself be put in this situation , and I'm sure she is pretty sad as well . She is not the first nor the last woman to be mishandled and mistreated by a man . Disappointment

Real-Life Examples of Disappointment

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is the right word for this particular situation . When this type of situation was shared with me , the person who was telling me the story said that their girlfriend was so depressed that she couldn't even think straight . She went as far as to say her friend was crying and doing things out of her character . To get back at the man , but I don't think this situation is depressing . I told that person that we might need to stop saying she is depressed and call it for what it is . She is disappointed . She is feeling disappointment in herself , the situation and her choice of a man .

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Now let's discuss the word depression . According to the dictionary , the word is from a Latin word , deprimere , which means to press down . The dep means down and primere means to press the word itself . Depression sounds just like the meaning to press down . The word itself sounds heavy .

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Whenever I think of the word depression , I think of very dark thoughts , strong emotions of sadness , unhappiness and no will to live or do anything . In the dictionary it says the word depression means feelings of severe despondency and dejection . Similar words to further express depression include hopelessness . Similar words to further express depression include hopelessness , misery , gloom and failure . An example of depression could be feelings from the loss of a mother , father , child or another loved one in your life . A person you had loved for your whole life is no longer in your life , a person that took great care of you or that you took care of . This person was with you through the good and the tough times . This type of situation of loss could be very serious to your life . You could feel depression from not having anyone to share your life with anymore . Some people even experience depression from a loss of a pet . The pet was with them through the same type of tough

Understanding True Depression

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times and loneliness . We can even see the depression in their face , body , voice , activities and words . Depression can be a serious medical situation for some people . I believe if you are unable to handle those strong emotions , then you need to seek help . Many people in my culture will suffer depression because they don't want anyone to know they can't deal with the issue . Stress or situation that calls them to feel so pressed down and heavy they will suffer in silence . Then you have those folks who have taught themselves methods of coping through self-taught techniques . Is this good or bad ? Probably not , but it's good for them . I want you to hear the difference between disappointment and depression . In the definition of depression it says severe despondency and dejection . I want you to focus on the word severe . The word severe itself means intense . Similar words like brutal , harsh and critical harsh and critical . So for me , depression is disappointment on steroids , three times worse than anything that has happened in your life at that time .

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Depression is not something you want to use lightly in a conversation about yourself or someone else's feelings . Our perspective of what is going on in other people's lives may not be as severe as you see it , but the person is so hurt , frustrated and disappointed that they may use words out of context , triggering you to think they are depressed . They may even say to think they are depressed . They may even say girl , I am so depressed over this situation . This is why I say the word is misused and overused sometimes .

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All I would say right now is that if your friend is telling you they are depressed , I

Supporting Friends Through Emotional Times

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want you to think about it . Talk it out with them and help them understand that their situation may not be as serious or as critical as they may think . Let them know they have a friend in you and let them know that you are there for them and you will help them in any way that you can . Many times , just letting someone know you are with them and you have their back is enough to help them see . They have a way out and it's not as bad as they may have thought . But I also want to say that if your friend is experiencing deep depression , help them find the right doctor . Hell , go with them to see a doctor . Encourage them to go to the doctor for relief and clarity . Your encouragement can mean so much . It could be the beginning of getting out of their funk , their depression . No-transcript .

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