Overrated Valentine's Day

Valentine’s Day, often seen as a celebration of love, is rooted in a dark history that questions the sincerity and commercialization of our affections. This episode explores the origins, inherent problems, and alternatives to expressing love on this holiday.

• Examination of the origins of Valentine's Day 
• Discussion of its dark historical roots connected to pagan rituals 
• Analysis of how commercialism overshadows genuine love 
• Suggestions for deeper, more meaningful expressions of love 
• Encouragement to nurture relationships beyond one day a year

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:03

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Speaker 2: 0:32

Welcome to A Queen's Opinion. My name is Queen, my voice, my opinion and your listening ears this episode. We are talking about overrated Valentine's Day. The holiday is approaching and I want to drop this opinion in your ears before you go out and purchase those flowers, hearts and candy. Why do we celebrate Valentine's Day? Do we even know where this holiday stems from Day? Do we even know where this holiday stems from? Do you really know why Valentine's Day was created? Do you know Valentine's Day has a dark meaning in history? I always thought Valentine's Day was overrated and I always thought Valentine's Day was a waste of money. So I started to dig into this holiday and why we are so excited for this one day of love.

Speaker 2: 1:31

I want to take just a moment to share a little history with you regarding Valentine's Day and how we ended up with this holiday. It's based off a pagan festival that took place in February called La Pachelia. During the festival, animals were killed and the blood was thrown on the women to represent fertility and easy childbirth. Pagans really thought the blood would help women with their fertility problem. Now, this already sounds like a hot mess to me. Why would women want animal blood thrown on them? I guess. Back in those days, doctors really didn't know what the hell they were doing and women were expendable.

Speaker 2: 2:19

The internet had basically two stories as to how this holiday came about and is celebrated today. You see, historically Valentine's or should I say St Valentine's Day according to Britanniacom stated that a bishop named St Valentine wrote a letter to a friend's daughter and signed the letter from your Valentine. Saint Valentine was a Christian man who died a martyr. You see, the bishops and or bishops back in the early Roman days were punished for marrying couples after it was outlawed. Yet Saint Valentine ministered to the persecuted Christians and defied orders of not marrying couples, which spared the men from going to war. Now this doesn't sound like a love relationship, but an understanding between two people. Love may not have been part of their story, which is another way. Women were mistreated and not respected even back in those days. So St Valentine was given a holiday for his work in the church and helping persecuted Christians. Somewhere down the line, a festival was created by the Romans and it was called St Valentine's Day or Festival of Celebration. And then the church just declared the festival would be called St Valentine's Day, celebrated February the 14th, because the bishop who sent. He was a Christian man who died a martyr. He was a clergyman who was persecuted by the Christians and he died and was buried on February the 14th.

Speaker 2: 4:22

You won't find St Valentine in the Bible. If you're looking for him, nope, you won't find him. You will not find St Valentine in the Bible. I thought that was odd. He was a saint, don't you think Jesus would have mentioned him somewhere in the Bible? But that's another episode, not this one.

Speaker 2: 4:50

After I started looking into this Valentine's Day, I realized that my opinion may be closer to the right thinking that Valentine's Day is overrated and we don't need a holiday to celebrate the people we love. We have people going out here purchasing love cards, candy and flowers. People going out here purchasing love cards, candy and flowers all sorts of materialistic items to show the world you love this person in your life. There is no amount of candy that can express my love for my husband. He can't buy enough candy for me to show me how he feels about me. Show me how he feels about me. He doesn't need to spend money like that to buy me candy by the pound to show me his love. If you're going to give a card, speak your written words from your heart or just tell me in person, or even a phone call. Let me hear your expressions, let me hear the words directly from you.

Speaker 2: 6:08

Flowers well, flowers are beautiful. My husband knows I love flowers. Flowers to me, are an expression of something of nature. It shows life in a beautiful way. Now, some people don't really care too much about flowers and my husband is one of those people. He says he doesn't like purchasing flowers because all they're going to do is die in a couple of days and that is a waste of money from his perspective. Yes, it's true, flowers will die in a few days, and plants would eventually as well, but the point is that flowers and plants are from Mother Nature's earth. I look at a flower and I relate them to a relationship. When you first meet the person, it's like planting the seed. As you get to know each other, the flowers begin to grow, and how long it lives depends on the care you give it. It needs nutrients, water, the right environment and atmosphere to grow, just like a relationship. If you have taken good care of the flowers, they will last for a lifetime, reproducing, regrowing and strengthening their roots. So, because of my connection with flowers and relationships. That's why I love them. Flowers and plants.

Speaker 2: 7:37

Just like most holidays in this commercialized world, flowers are given a bad reputation. For Valentine's Day, people give candy cards and flowers. Which flowers look pretty for a few days and it might go bad by the end of the week and the card is either trashed and forgotten or put away as a memory or until next time. Listen, if you're going to participate in this holiday, I suggest you go all out for your loved one. If this is the only day of the year that you show them you love them, care for them, appreciate them, then go all out for the holiday. Give them more than a dozen of roses how about a dozen of roses for 14 days, all the way up till 14th of February. Don't just buy a card. Give her a card 14 days in a row, written by you, not Hallmark. Don't just give her candy for one day. Give her Hershey kisses every day and follow it up with a kiss from you. If you're going to participate in the overrated Valentine's Day celebration, go big or go home or just don't participate. I'm going to upset a few people, but it's okay. I'm sorry to all the people participating this holiday and your loved one only shows you love.

Speaker 2: 9:17

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